The 2018 New Year’s Meme:
Did you do something you thought you would never do?
Cancelled a two-week vacation days before we were going to take it.
Did you keep any New Year’s Resolutions?
I didn’t make any resolutions because I hate cliche. But maybe my resolution this year will be to make one. That might be too meta.
Did anyone close to you give birth?
Did anyone close to you die?
No. But a friend’s spouse died very suddenly. I felt and continue to feel impacted pretty profoundly with the realization that it can happen at any time and to anyone — and what it means to me every day to have a spouse and what it could be like if that was taken from me the way it was taken from her.
Did you visit any countries outside the US?
No. We intended to visit a part of Canada I’ve never seen before as part of the trip that was canceled, though.
What would you like to have in 2019 that you lacked in 2018?
More discipline and a bigger car (although that’s really not in the cards until 2020.)
Will any date from 2018 stay etched in your memory forever?
11/27. Keeping a human that I built from scratch alive for a decade felt monumental.
What was your biggest achievement of 2018?
Negotiating the work schedule I wanted. I know a lot of people and moving parts went into the finessing of it, but it took a boatload of courage to say what I needed in the first place.
What was your biggest failure?
I made a couple of social missteps that landed me in places I didn’t relish being.
Did you suffer illness or injury?
Nothing major. I am currently at the beginning of the end of what is probably my worst upper respiratory illness since the day I found out I was pregnant, though.
What was the best thing you bought in ’18?
My new Big Fig mattress
Did your behavior change over the year?
I think it’s constantly changing.
Where did you spend most of your money?
Technically, it’s Hanukkah gifts. The new pool/ping-pong table, actually. It would have been that big vacation.
Are you happier than this time last year?
In some ways, a little less happy. In other ways, the same amount of happy.
What song will remind you of 2018?
Baby Shark, of all things. Ugh.
What do you wish you would have done more of?
Date nights, art, writing.
What do you wish you would have done less of?
What did/will you do for Christmas ’18?
It was very low-key, in part by design and in part because of the URI I’m still nursing. We went to the movies (Mary Poppins Returns) and went out for Chinese food.
Did you fall in love in 2018?
Did you get your heart broken in 2018?
Favorite TV programs of ’18?
This is Us, My Brilliant Friend, The Marvelous Mrs. Maisel, and an assortment of mindless TLC reality shows.
Do you hate anyone now that you didn’t hate this time last year?
Nah, same people.
What was the best book you read and/or movie you saw?
The best book was Just Kids and the best movie was RBG.
What was your greatest discovery?
This isn’t new, but I rediscovered my sewing machine recently and found that I can do things like hem pants in ten minutes before school drop-off.
What did you do on your birthday and how old were you?
I turned 44. I had breakfast at Bittersweet, like I always do on my birthday. Then taught Hebrew school, took The Who to basketball clinic, and went to see the re-release of the movie Grease in the theatre with my pals.
What would have made your year immeasurably more satisfying?
The removal of the entire current administration.
How would you describe your personal fashion concept of 2018?
Maxi skirts and Crocs/Uggs (depending on the weather)
What was your greatest disappointment in 2018?
My greatest disappointment continues to the current administration and the fact that despite so much apparent evidence, nothing of consequence is really happening to take it down.
Whose behavior merited celebration?
The Who’s. I mean, he’s a tween now and he has the mouth to prove it, but overall, his behavior definitely merits celebration. He maintains a pretty rigorous schedule, works hard in school, plays hard at sports, meets challenges as they get thrown at him, grapples with right and wrong, and aside from the typical heavy sighing and eye-rolling, takes most of it in stride.
Who was the best new person you met?
Tracie and Lianne, but it’s possible I met them at the tail end of 2017.
Who did you wish you did not meet?
Who was your best friend?
M* is my best friend.
Who was your enemy?
No enemies, but a few I could really do without.
Who do you miss?
I continue to miss my grandmother. Also: SKB, KAE, DD, and my mama.
Tell us a valuable life lesson you learned in 2018?
Stepping back is ok for a little while, but you have to get back in the ring if the fight’s not won.
What will you always remember about 2018?
This wasn’t a super-remarkable year. It was fine, but nothing too monumental.